They're important to you, certainly. Important in a "that's a shame" kinda way. But you're implications are hyperbolic and there's no reason for you or anyone else to assume that other people have had the same experiences and they are simply indicative of being a woman and a gamer. The anecdote about your brothers in particular is not something that bears any relevance. you got teased/excluded by your siblings. Yup. Everyone has. It's nothing to do with RPGs. The "villain" in that story seems to be your mother with her intent on imposing traditional gender role values.Yay! The first dismissal of my personal experiences being completely unimportant!
*Puts a notch on her belt*
Over half of the role players I've played with have been women. These days female gamers are not "rare", that meme is a holdover from decades ago. Tons of girls game these days, and I've pretty much had exclusively mixed gender groups for over a decade.
If you didn't intend your post the way I've read it, then I am at a loss as to what response you are looking for?