As a note, and I don't know if anyone else has commented upon this-- I read this entire thread earlier, couldn't think of precisely something to say in response, and moved on at the urging of Iolithae Septimian after I got drawn into the hideousness that was the Knights of the Scarlet Women nonsense, but haven't read the thread past this post yet --and while it's good that you don't "feel" brave... the fact that others think you are is quite understandable.I think the saddest thing I've seen generated by this thread is the notes, PMs and messages I've gotten here and elsewhere from women thanking me for posting this and then telling me how brave I am. I don't feel brave, I just feel like I had something to say.
Just look at the response you've gotten! It obviously doesn't bother you, and that's a good thing that you're strong enough to take it all. But, the mere fact that this thread has gotten such a huge upwelling of responses that it has really showcases the point that you and others have been making. I wouldn't want to take the kind of criticism that you've been getting off this thread, especially considering that the original post is basically nothing but harmless observations. Yet, you are, and not every woman is going to want to take the amount of backlash that you've already taken just to bring this kind of stuff to light. Nor should they feel obligated to do so; like I said! I wouldn't want to take the flak you've taken!
I think it's criminal that you agonized for two hours to post this, but I'm very glad that you did, even if as a student of human behavior I didn't find anything particular novel here. Except for the fact that people actually believe that females aren't treated any differently than males. Not just in gaming but in general; even the most cursory self-examination of anyone's own experiences should reveal that to be complete nonsense. As a note of clarification, those differences in behavior aren't always a bad thing and don't always constitute 'sexism' but to ignore them with blase disinterest to the point of effectively ridiculing someone for pointing out an example of them seems delusional to me.